Deeper Dating by Blinkist is a book about cultivating meaningful, genuine relationships. It explores how to use self-awareness and emotional courage to build meaningful relationships and fulfill one's own needs in the process. Key learnings include:
• Recognizing core traits and values that are important to you and seek out relationships with people who share them
• Examining yourself to understand the source of your own emotions and the factors which contribute to the success or failure of a relationship
• Letting go of the pressure to find a relationship and make it “perfect”
As a UX designer, reading Deeper Dating can enrich your understanding of relationships and how they work in the real world. This can ultimately help you build stronger relationships with your stakeholders, as well as with your team members. Moreover, it can also give you insights into the user psychology, which can help you make more informed decisions about your designs.
Other books that you may be interested in exploring as a UX designer include: Design for Empathy by Indi Young, The Design of Everyday Things by Donald A. Norman, and Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products by Nir Eyal.
🎀 Highlights
identify your Core Gifts;
you should change what you look like, play games, or juggle multiple love interests at once? This advice might help you find short-term or superficial connections, but it’s unlikely to lead to the kinds of relationship that really fulfill you.
How often are you told that you should change what you look like, play games, or juggle multiple love interests at once? This advice might help you find short-term or superficial connections, but it’s unlikely to lead to the kinds of relationship that really fulfill you.
If you’re ashamed of being a quiet person, for instance, your Core Gift might be deep humility that hasn’t been appreciated or healthily expressed.
avoid wasting time with people who offer little potential for meaningful connection.
A lot of these are along the lines of “Play hard to get,” or “Keep them guessing,” or “Be a perfect version of yourself.”
you’ll have heard your fair share of dating dos and don’ts. A lot of these are along the lines of “Play hard to get,” or “Keep them guessing,” or “Be a perfect version of yourself.”
if you want to find real love, you need to bring your authentic self to the dating table.
As popular as this idea is, you actually need to do the opposite – you need to show interest.
expressing your interest in a romantic partner is the best way to build a connection.
Talk about your dreams, the things that matter the most to you, and what brings you the most joy. And encourage your date to do the same. This is a good way to figure out whether you’ve found a match, because the right person – an attraction of inspiration – will welcome this.
focus on the quality of your connection, instead of any external imperfections or ideas about who or what your partner should
Do you feel good around this person? Are your interactions easy and comfortable? If the answer is yes, then you’ve stumbled onto a connection with potential.
Sure, you can go to bars, but how often do you find people who are relationship material?
those matches often lack the depth needed to build something meaningful.
identify your Core Gifts;
you should change what you look like, play games, or juggle multiple love interests at once? This advice might help you find short-term or superficial connections, but it’s unlikely to lead to the kinds of relationship that really fulfill you.
How often are you told that you should change what you look like, play games, or juggle multiple love interests at once? This advice might help you find short-term or superficial connections, but it’s unlikely to lead to the kinds of relationship that really fulfill you.
If you’re ashamed of being a quiet person, for instance, your Core Gift might be deep humility that hasn’t been appreciated or healthily expressed.
avoid wasting time with people who offer little potential for meaningful connection.
A lot of these are along the lines of “Play hard to get,” or “Keep them guessing,” or “Be a perfect version of yourself.”
you’ll have heard your fair share of dating dos and don’ts. A lot of these are along the lines of “Play hard to get,” or “Keep them guessing,” or “Be a perfect version of yourself.”
if you want to find real love, you need to bring your authentic self to the dating table.
As popular as this idea is, you actually need to do the opposite – you need to show interest.
expressing your interest in a romantic partner is the best way to build a connection.
Talk about your dreams, the things that matter the most to you, and what brings you the most joy. And encourage your date to do the same. This is a good way to figure out whether you’ve found a match, because the right person – an attraction of inspiration – will welcome this.
focus on the quality of your connection, instead of any external imperfections or ideas about who or what your partner should
Do you feel good around this person? Are your interactions easy and comfortable? If the answer is yes, then you’ve stumbled onto a connection with potential.
Sure, you can go to bars, but how often do you find people who are relationship material?
those matches often lack the depth needed to build something meaningful.
