The Asshole Survival Guide by Robert I. Sutton is a comprehensive guide to understanding and dealing with difficult people in the workplace. This book provides practical strategies for identifying, understanding, and managing difficult people and helps readers become more assertive and empowered. Those who have experienced difficult relationships in their work lives can benefit from Sutton's research-backed advice. As a German UX Designer in one's mid-20s interested in architecture, data, philosophy, urban planning, and mobility, reading this book can help develop the skills and strategies needed to professionally navigate difficult relationships in both their personal and professional lives. Additionally, this book may be of interest to those wanting to grow and develop their leadership capabilities. For individuals looking for similar content, other titles of interest could include The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni and Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen.
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no matter where you go, there’ll always be some asshole trying to make your life more complicated.
there’s always a jerk in every group.
accept that jerks will be jerks and deal with them.
what wealth has to do with being an asshole.
share their experiences with assholes
boss who only invites his favorite employees to the office Christmas party;
they will remember how you made them feel.”
Maya Angelou
next question to ask is whether this person is a temporary or a continual asshole.
mild-mannered coaches turned aggressive during a halftime pep talk, it regularly sparked a boost in performance.
always unpleasant didn’t have the same effect during their angry halftime speeches.
no excuse for being a permanent one.
asshole blindness.
genuinely no longer recognized it either.
already invested so much of your emotional well-being to put up with their behavior
companies generally have both good and bad bosses,
relocate within the organization.
so it doesn’t require employees to get permission from their boss before moving to a different division
personality clash or if the boss really was an asshole.
assholish behavior can be similar to a contagious disease
when students have a teacher who is experiencing emotional exhaustion, they’re more likely to have elevated stress hormones than students whose teacher isn’t emotionally burned-out.
corresponding across all mediums of communication. And since
negative behavior can spread “like the common cold.”
this presents an even greater danger today.
former Apple employee who’d worked under Steve Jobs for 15 years how he’d managed to cope with Jobs, who was notorious for his asshole behavior. The answer: he kept his distance, sitting as far away as possible in meetings and even avoiding elevator rides with him.
he kept his distance, sitting as far away as possible in meetings and even avoiding elevator rides with him. Reframe asshole behavior as something that is not your fault.
Reframing is a psychological technique used in cognitive behavioral therapy,
turn lemons into lemonade.
assholes into allies,
turn a negative or threatening situation into an enjoyable challenge
framing of the test affected test performance.
measurement of intelligence, but rather an interesting and challenging questionnaire,
reappraisal,
“upsetting” photographs of angry people.
consider that maybe the angry people in the pictures had just had a bad day
chance to reappraise.
forced to endure an asshole every day,
starting a war with an asshole is a risky business
Rock-solid evidence of asshole behavior will prevent you from entering a he-said-she-said situation.
strong documentation in hand.
contained a multitude of inappropriate remarks.
Carlson was awarded $20 million in compensation.
an asshole to an asshole is shown to work with selfish, Machiavellian personalities
A 2015 study showed these types tend to back off when confronted by a similarly selfish and uncooperative person.
acknowledging your own asshole tendencies isn’t easy.
drivers with the most expensive cars would cut in front of fellow drivers 30 percent of the time and refuse to stop for pedestrians 50 percent of the time.
cheapest cars always stopped for pedestrians and only cut off fellow drivers 10 percent of the time.
wealthy drivers
assholes.
behavior consistently makes you feel demoralized.
Remove yourself from environments filled with assholes,
no matter where you go, there’ll always be some asshole trying to make your life more complicated.
there’s always a jerk in every group.
accept that jerks will be jerks and deal with them.
what wealth has to do with being an asshole.
share their experiences with assholes
boss who only invites his favorite employees to the office Christmas party;
they will remember how you made them feel.”
Maya Angelou
next question to ask is whether this person is a temporary or a continual asshole.
mild-mannered coaches turned aggressive during a halftime pep talk, it regularly sparked a boost in performance.
always unpleasant didn’t have the same effect during their angry halftime speeches.
no excuse for being a permanent one.
asshole blindness.
genuinely no longer recognized it either.
already invested so much of your emotional well-being to put up with their behavior
companies generally have both good and bad bosses,
relocate within the organization.
so it doesn’t require employees to get permission from their boss before moving to a different division
personality clash or if the boss really was an asshole.
assholish behavior can be similar to a contagious disease
when students have a teacher who is experiencing emotional exhaustion, they’re more likely to have elevated stress hormones than students whose teacher isn’t emotionally burned-out.
corresponding across all mediums of communication. And since
negative behavior can spread “like the common cold.”
this presents an even greater danger today.
former Apple employee who’d worked under Steve Jobs for 15 years how he’d managed to cope with Jobs, who was notorious for his asshole behavior. The answer: he kept his distance, sitting as far away as possible in meetings and even avoiding elevator rides with him.
he kept his distance, sitting as far away as possible in meetings and even avoiding elevator rides with him. Reframe asshole behavior as something that is not your fault.
Reframing is a psychological technique used in cognitive behavioral therapy,
turn lemons into lemonade.
assholes into allies,
turn a negative or threatening situation into an enjoyable challenge
framing of the test affected test performance.
measurement of intelligence, but rather an interesting and challenging questionnaire,
reappraisal,
“upsetting” photographs of angry people.
consider that maybe the angry people in the pictures had just had a bad day
chance to reappraise.
forced to endure an asshole every day,
starting a war with an asshole is a risky business
Rock-solid evidence of asshole behavior will prevent you from entering a he-said-she-said situation.
strong documentation in hand.
contained a multitude of inappropriate remarks.
Carlson was awarded $20 million in compensation.
an asshole to an asshole is shown to work with selfish, Machiavellian personalities
A 2015 study showed these types tend to back off when confronted by a similarly selfish and uncooperative person.
acknowledging your own asshole tendencies isn’t easy.
drivers with the most expensive cars would cut in front of fellow drivers 30 percent of the time and refuse to stop for pedestrians 50 percent of the time.
cheapest cars always stopped for pedestrians and only cut off fellow drivers 10 percent of the time.
wealthy drivers
assholes.
behavior consistently makes you feel demoralized.
Remove yourself from environments filled with assholes,
no matter where you go, there’ll always be some asshole trying to make your life more complicated.
there’s always a jerk in every group.
accept that jerks will be jerks and deal with them.
what wealth has to do with being an asshole.
share their experiences with assholes
boss who only invites his favorite employees to the office Christmas party;
they will remember how you made them feel.”
Maya Angelou
next question to ask is whether this person is a temporary or a continual asshole.
mild-mannered coaches turned aggressive during a halftime pep talk, it regularly sparked a boost in performance.
always unpleasant didn’t have the same effect during their angry halftime speeches.
no excuse for being a permanent one.
asshole blindness.
genuinely no longer recognized it either.
already invested so much of your emotional well-being to put up with their behavior
companies generally have both good and bad bosses,
relocate within the organization.
so it doesn’t require employees to get permission from their boss before moving to a different division
personality clash or if the boss really was an asshole.
assholish behavior can be similar to a contagious disease
when students have a teacher who is experiencing emotional exhaustion, they’re more likely to have elevated stress hormones than students whose teacher isn’t emotionally burned-out.
corresponding across all mediums of communication. And since
negative behavior can spread “like the common cold.”
this presents an even greater danger today.
former Apple employee who’d worked under Steve Jobs for 15 years how he’d managed to cope with Jobs, who was notorious for his asshole behavior. The answer: he kept his distance, sitting as far away as possible in meetings and even avoiding elevator rides with him.
he kept his distance, sitting as far away as possible in meetings and even avoiding elevator rides with him. Reframe asshole behavior as something that is not your fault.
Reframing is a psychological technique used in cognitive behavioral therapy,
turn lemons into lemonade.
assholes into allies,
turn a negative or threatening situation into an enjoyable challenge
framing of the test affected test performance.
measurement of intelligence, but rather an interesting and challenging questionnaire,
reappraisal,
“upsetting” photographs of angry people.
consider that maybe the angry people in the pictures had just had a bad day
chance to reappraise.
forced to endure an asshole every day,
starting a war with an asshole is a risky business
Rock-solid evidence of asshole behavior will prevent you from entering a he-said-she-said situation.
strong documentation in hand.
contained a multitude of inappropriate remarks.
Carlson was awarded $20 million in compensation.
an asshole to an asshole is shown to work with selfish, Machiavellian personalities
A 2015 study showed these types tend to back off when confronted by a similarly selfish and uncooperative person.
acknowledging your own asshole tendencies isn’t easy.
drivers with the most expensive cars would cut in front of fellow drivers 30 percent of the time and refuse to stop for pedestrians 50 percent of the time.
cheapest cars always stopped for pedestrians and only cut off fellow drivers 10 percent of the time.
wealthy drivers
assholes.
behavior consistently makes you feel demoralized.
Remove yourself from environments filled with assholes,
